I think that the reason why i dont like to blog is because i am a very private person. But am I an Introvert? I have read up several articles on introversion and the classification of introverts and extroverts. And I think that everyone, no matter how introvert or extrovert you are, there is a little of the opposite end of you. Something like the yin yang symbol of taoism where it
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reflects the inescapably intertwined duality of all things in nature..." (quoted from wikipedia)
I myself, being quite an introvert, do enjoy the company of friends at times but generally prefer to be with my dear or myself. I'm not good in handling new faces especially if they are those outgoing type. On the other hand, I am sure that those outgoing types will have their own moments when they prefer to be alone.
Talking about parties and being an introvert, this year is when everyone is celebrating their 21st birthday. I have been to quite a few but still have not decided how i want to celebrate mine. Big parties like at chalets or organising it at cafes is not a bad idea. But I do not really enjoy myself there and it seems like the birthday boy/girl is not really enjoying himself too.
So I ask myself: ''What is the purpose of having a party in the first place?" Is it to celebrate you turning 21 which means that you are an adult in the eyes of the law now? Yes.
But are you really an adult yet? No.
We are still dependent on our parents to support us through our university. In that sense, we are no different from the JC or Secondary students. What makes us truly an adult is the way that we think and act. In truth, we are still young and have lots to learn. We have not seen the outside world and we are still very sheltered from the harsh realities of the world.
What will really make us grow is when we experience hardships and turbulent times. You don't appreciate what you have until it is taken away from you. Just like how those who have been through war, will treasure freedom; those suffering from illness will value good health; those that have removed their braces will appreciate the fact that food will never get stuck everywhere each time they eat and the ulcer free days.
Back to the topic on 21st birthdays.....Perhaps it is an opportunity to gather all your friends together for a gathering that you have planned but no one ever seems to have time.
What ever the case is.. I came to this conclusion:
Birthday celebrations should never be for the sake of inviting everyone because they have invited you to theirs before. Rather, it should be because you want them to share that special moment with you. Be it in cafes/chalets/ even at your own home and no matter how little or many people you invite, you must not forget the most important person: You.
If at the end of the day, you feel this sense of emptiness or lose sight of the meaning of celebrating your own birthday, then I say that that is the saddest thing that can possible happen to you on your birthday.
For me... I'm still thinking about it and making sure that I do not end up just following the crowd by organising one big birthday bash and end up with that feeling at the end of the day.
And if I do happen to organise one big birthday bash, please turn up and celebrate it together with me ok? =D
-Mark-
5/08/2008 03:11:00 pm
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"What profits the man who gains the world but loses his soul?"
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“Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.” ~ Harry Potter
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Designer Eric Sim
Brushes Hybrid Genesis and
Eric Sim
Features an abstract- floral digital artwork drawn by me in photoshop. This layout is appropriate for all genders. The grandiose design is laid freely on a simple canvas and they complement each other pretty well. The sudden gradient change is applied to create one contrasting element. I created a 3D effect on the vines and they seem to jut out of the yellow canvas.
Why the name? The design, as you can see, is abstract and it gives a double-vision feel, therefore, Esophoria, a tendency to squint your eyes inward to create a double vision.
